To further explore the Identify, Examine, and Reflect parts of How to unlock rules that don’t serve you, let’s play with one that just came up in my life: Construct: It’s bad to use something up (wearing out something with electronics counts as ‘using it up’ if we perceive it as having a total number…
What’s all this talk in psychology about ‘being the observer of your thoughts’? And, why would I care? Here’s my take.
Our brains are filled with rules. Rules, judgements, and criticisms that we’ve piled on over time – maybe that served us once, but don’t in our current life. Or maybe something that does keep us safe (e.g. “is smart to do”) in some circumstance, but have since been sloppily expanded to broadly encompass far too…
“I am…” I’ve discovered it is very hard for me to ‘claim’ good things about me. It is like I’m claiming some level of proficiency that I haven’t proved. It took me over a hundred paintings before I could think/accept/admit that “I am an artist”. Why are these I am statements so hard? Why are…
I was reading an article the other day about someone lamenting the aches and pains and fatigue of growing older to their even-older and even-more-falling-apart parent. The 88-year-old responds, “Yeah, but the alternative is worse”. The alternative. I love that, because it short-circuits that crazy part of my mind that loves to say all the…
You know, I started doing koga (which is mindfulness-based, inward-focused movement to music) for exercise. Yet, I got something so much more than just doing “exercise”. I’m no longer checking some box out of obligation to my “good health”. No, I’m doing something that truly feels satisfying. It’s actually a source of pleasure, because it…
A totally different ‘way’ to exercise. If we believe we are exercising for our ‘health’ … shouldn’t we be in a healthy mindset while doing it?
Most of us have ‘learned’ to push our body painfully past its breaking point – and delude ourselves that this is the path towards “health” in the body. I was one of these people.
Mental health often discusses Imposter Syndrome as it relates to our role in the workplace, but I don’t think I have heard it in relation to depression… but I’m actually thinking it quite does.
DO the thing you fear, DO something in the direction towards where you ‘wish’ you were but don’t believe you are. Every time you do something a little outside of your comfort zone, a little outside of that identity that you allow yourself to have, you will erode your false belief that the “you can’t do that” voice is accurate.
Not taking time for yourself is often connected to being (addicted to being) ‘in service to others’. But being consumed with “fixing what’s broken” can have the same result.
What do you love about the experience of living? I love so many, many things – some of which come from their opposite.
Life lessons from a COOKIE: How some rogue baking nourished me with some fundamental insights on life.
A meditation to leverage your mind to improve your acceptance and benefit from the Covid vaccine.
Why do we fear challenging ourselves in new areas of our life? We have dreams, ambitions – things we’d love to see if we can do, see if we’d love them as much as we think we would. Yet we don’t try. We fear failure. But what if we changed our perception?
It’s coming up on that time of year… That one-year anniversary where we can all remember the last thing that we did in the public, or with the public, before everything changed from covid. So, I am planning a covid party. The extent of the “party” will of course be my husband and my mother. …
The Perfectionistic Dark Side of Experimenting For Your Health: When you use all that awesome health knowledge to beat yourself up.
Why it is important to keep complete resolve while avoiding potential allergens and food reactions.
“Don’t be a quitter”
Ever notice how many virtues there are which are noble to teach a child, yet become self-limiting and self-defeating after we hone them to perfection as adults??
Why is it that whenever something becomes commonplace, or routine, that we lose our appreciation and wonder of it?